
DC
Counseling Update - March/A

State Assessment Excusal Form Walkthrough Parent/Guardian - Click Below
DC THRIFT
Kelli Clay and I would like to formally invite you to our GRAND OPENING of DC Thrift on April 1st! We, along with several juniors and seniors, have been revitalizing the Clothing Closet, located in South. It's been a couple years since it was up and running, so we have cleaned, organized, and rebranded as DC Thrift. Who doesn't love to thrift shop?!
DC Thrift is an affordable place to shop for clothes, shoes, and accessories with everything priced at $1, and it is available to students and staff!
Check out DC Thrift information below:
What: DC Thrift Store
Who: Open to Everyone!
Where: Across from Athletic Office in South/Beside Karen Borgsmiller's room
When: Grand Opening is Monday, April 1, from 3:00-4:00
Normal Store Hours: Wednesdays from 3:00pm-4:00pm and Fridays from 7:30am-8:30am
We would love to see you there! - Kristy McNary - DCHS COUNSELOR
DCHS Class of 2024 - Important GRADUATION Meeting
Dear DCHS Class of 2024 Seniors, Parents and/or Guardians-
Douglas County High School has a wonderful tradition of honoring seniors in a variety of ways, from Prom/After Prom, the Senior Class Clap Out (return to feeder elementary), Honors Convocation, all the way through to the most important event, graduation. There are so many events of importance that we wanted to provide you with a detailed list coming out shortly.
As these next ten weeks will zoom by, I want to highlight an event that will involve seniors and their parents or guardians. Since Douglas County High School has chosen to hold our 2024 Commencement ceremony at the United States Air Force Academy’s Clune Arena (indoor), there will be some changes and information that must be communicated to ensure a smooth day of celebration. As we prepare for graduation, seniors and parents/guardians will want to mark their calendars for a MANDATORY Graduation Informational meeting. Graduating seniors and AT LEAST one parent/guardian (both are welcome) will be expected to attend an informational meeting about the 2024 Graduation Commencement ceremony on EITHER Monday, April 22nd OR Tuesday, April 23rd at 6:00 p.m. in the DCHS Auditorium. We will review important graduation information to make sure our ceremony is a wonderfully memorable event. Graduation is scheduled for Wednesday, May 22nd at 10:00 a.m. at Clune Arena on the USAF Academy. The information will include security measures required to attend and hold our ceremony there, as well as parking, assistance for handicapped spectators, and behavior expectations for graduates and spectators. Parents/guardians are EXPECTED to attend this meeting with their child in order to participate in the 2024 ceremony.
I am so proud of the Class of 2024 and all they have done here at Douglas County High School to distinguish themselves. I look forward to honoring them and celebrating their successes with you.
Sincerely,
Anthony Kappas
Principal, Douglas County High School
Teen Action Council Application Open for Rise Above Colorado
We are excited to share with you that we are accepting applications for our 2024-2025 statewide Teen Action Council! Our teen council convenes youth across the state to work on shared behavioral health and prevention topics together. The council also contributes valuable insight to the work we do and helps ensure that we are relevant and effective with youth. Meetings occur once per monthly virtually, plus several in-person retreats. We've had many teens participate in both our council and their local/regional teen councils. Teens earn a $1,000 stipend throughout the year for full participation, along with opportunities to earn additional income, plus lodging and mileage covered for in-person events.
Please forward to teens you know and let us know if you have any questions. Here is the link to the application and there are QR codes to scan below: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd7ZzqLqkUfvHXrLJ6iq5dUbtGccs5ei-4lJJQ1YoIpudZFzA/viewform?usp=send_form
PS - We will soon transition to sending communications to this list via Constant Contact to make it easier for you to manage your subscription and easier for us to send better emails. In the meantime, reach out to liz@riseaboveco.org or follow the link below if you'd like to unsubscribe.
Counseling Update - March/April
The College Essay Guy Resource
This is a fabulous resource for high school counselors and families! See the list of topics recently presented on here. One webinar that was especially good is Engaging FGLI Families: Making the Case for College . Another great topic was Should you Talk ABout Mental Health in Your College Application Essay . Don't miss out on Upcoming Webinars and Events.
Some of these webinars could be shared with parents/students as well as you see fit for your community, such as the one below.
Helping Students Apply to Highly Selective Colleges and Universities
Course for Families and Students
*Both courses have a "pay as you can" option.
The College Essay Guy also has a Podcast (upcoming podcast focusing on letters of rec)
Are you a Senior? Do you have all your Graduation Requirements done?
1.) You have earned 24 credits in the needed categories. You can look at your transcript through IC under documents.
2.) You have completed 20 hours of community service, filled out the documentation, and handed in to the Counseling office.
3.) You have met English and Math Competencies. This is completed most commonly through earning the necessary scores through the SAT, taking Entrepreneurial Econ class (and passing Capstone Project, ASVAB, taking a ACC Class, AP Class, or WorkKeys test.
If you are a parent and have any questions about your student's graduation status PLEASE CONTACT THE COUNSELING OFFICE/YOUR STUDENT'S COUNSELOR.
CAREER ADVANCE COLORADO - FREE COLLEGE!
Studies show when you can put a name to that feeling it helps to manage it.
Anxiety Is Not Your Enemy
KEY POINTS
- Anxiety is challenging and has a bad reputation, but it is not the enemy we think it is.
- Anxiety serves important functions in our lives.
- Reframing anxiety and understanding its purpose can support us in coping with anxiety symptoms.
In American society, anxiety is rampant. In fact, anxiety disorders are one of the most common mental health challenges in the United States, and they impact more than 31 percent of the population at some point in their lifetime (NAMI, 2024). As a therapist, I frequently see clients come to therapy who are seeking support for anxiety. After all, anxiety doesn’t feel good. It can keep us up at night, bring feelings of danger, contribute to racing thoughts, cause hypervigilance, leave us feeling distracted and detached, make us feel sick, and more. The issue, though, isn’t anxiety itself, but when our brains/bodies become stuck in an anxiety cycle or interpret something as dangerous that isn’t. This isn’t our body’s fault, but instead is frequently a response to trauma, chronic stress, life circumstances, or genetic influences that can leave some brains more vulnerable to overdrive.
Framing Anxiety as Our Ally
Anxiety is a physiological response that has meaning. It has purpose. It is there to protect us from danger. When we understand the function our anxiety is playing, that knowledge alerts us to what we need and can foster self-compassion. As Karen Young discusses in her book Hey Warrior, anxiety is a sign of a strong working brain (even if anxiety might be a bit overprotective). Understanding our anxiety brings us one step closer to coping with it and caring for ourselves through it. Here are a few important functions of anxiety:
- Alert us to danger
- Wake our body up and give us the energy that we need in certain situations
- Make us more aware of our surroundings, people around us, and situations (and how they are impacting us)
- Help us recognize that this situation/relationship is like one in the past that caused us harm
- Motivate us to complete the tasks we need to do
- Remind us about things that are important to us (e.g., “Don’t forget to do _____”) and move us toward taking the steps we need to take to accomplish our goals
- Bring awareness about how others are doing and propel us to care for them
The Benefit of Anxiety in Action
As noted above, anxiety plays several important functions for us. Let's consider this in action: Christina is driving home late from work one night after having to pull long hours at the office. As she is driving home, she notices that she is feeling exhausted and having a hard time focusing her eyes on the road. When she realizes how tired she is, anxiety surfaces. She begins to breathe quickly and has thoughts and images of getting into a car accident. Christina’s first response is shame: “Why do I have to be anxious about this? I will be fine!” and “Stop it! Leave me alone!” The shame about her anxiety response only makes her feel worse. Christina then has a thought: “What if this anxiety is my body’s way of protecting me?”
You see, when Christina’s body provided an anxiety response, it flooded her body with hormones that helped wake her up (e.g., cortisol, adrenaline). This anxiety response gave her body the energy boost that it needed to wake up so that she could safely drive home. The realization of anxiety's function fostered self-compassion and then prompted Christina to respond to her needs by engaging in activities (e.g., listening to music) to wake her up and keep her alert as she drives home.
Caring for Ourselves
Without a little bit of anxiety in our lives, we might not have the energy to do what we want or be who we want to be. The challenge comes in when our nervous system has been under chronic stress and has challenges “turning off” or being in chronic “protection mode,” as I like to call it. This is distressing. Although reframing anxiety alone might not stop anxiety from surfacing, it can support us in stopping shame cycles that further perpetuate anxiety symptoms. This is only one piece of the puzzle, but as a therapist, I have seen the transformative power in reframing anxiety and understanding its purpose.
In addition to reframing your anxiety, here are some other things you can do to care for yourself:
- Get to know your anxiety. Keep a log. Notice when it comes up, why it comes up, and what it is trying to tell you/what its purpose might be.
- Identify how anxiety surfaces in your body so that when it starts to come up you can notice and care for yourself.
- Recognize that very real situations can bring chronic anxiety (e.g., financial challenges, poverty, intimate partner violence, complex trauma, war or violence, houselessness, oppression, collective trauma, anxiety disorders) and how these situations are not your fault.
- Be kind to yourself. Don’t shame or criticize your brain/body for trying to protect you. Instead, remind your nervous system that you are safe and engage in grounding exercises, move your body, or use other coping skills.
- Do research to understand the neurobiological mechanisms of anxiety (e.g., the amygdala). When you know what’s going on in your brain, it can feel less threatening and overwhelming.
- Know you’re not alone, both in feeling anxiety and in coping through it. Talk to safe people about your anxiety. Seek mental health support from a therapist or therapy group, or talk to your medical provider.
Remember that anxiety is not your enemy, but a way in which your body is trying to protect you (even if it is a bit too protective at times).
School-Related Anxiety: It's Not All in Your Head
KEY POINTS
- School-related anxiety accounts for a large percentage of pediatric visits.
- When school-related anxiety presents with physical symptoms, the child is experiencing the symptoms.
- Neuroscientific advances shed light on how the emotional brain can send false messages of bodily symptoms.
Pediatricians know firsthand that anxiety is a universal experience. Children naturally feel vulnerable and crave protection. We also know that children have feelings in abundance, but often lack the cognitive skills to express them. So it is not surprising to us when we find that kids, with their limited ability to navigate emotional storms, start experiencing their scary emotions not as feelings but rather through their bodies. According to pre-pandemic data school-related anxiety presenting as unexplained medical symptoms accounted for 5-12 percent of outpatient pediatric visits1. That’s a lot of frightened kids missing a lot of school.
Jason, 7 years old, flanked by two unhappy parents, was waiting for me when I arrived at my pediatric office early one Monday morning. Jason had been experiencing frequent unexplained belly pain over the past month and the symptoms had flared again the previous night. By this morning the mid-abdominal pain was sharper, and Jason cried and pleaded that he could not go to school, again. His parents had a list of diagnoses they felt should be ruled out. The school was asking for a “doctor’s note” so he could be allowed to make up the work at home. Then came an important diagnostic clue: “He’s missed five days of school in the past two weeks because of this.”
School attendance is one of the most significant markers for how well a child is functioning, and recurrent absenteeism due to unexplained medical symptoms is a red flag for any pediatric provider.
The neuroscience of brain mapping that links physical symptoms to the emotional brain has been rapidly advancing in recent decades. Treatment approaches, however, have been slow to make it out of academic centers to professionals in the community. In my work as medical director of the Inpatient Med/Psych program at Hasbro Children’s Hospital, I learned a great deal about the mechanisms of these emotionally based illnesses from the remarkable psychiatrists and psychologists I worked with. I also began to look back on my previous outpatient pediatric practice with dismay. I came to realize that I, like most pediatricians, had been treating minor versions of these emotional illnesses without understanding their full nature.
Jason was perched on the edge of the exam table as if preparing for flight. He stared down at his toes with an alertness that made it clear he was listening closely to every word that was spoken. When I attempted to engage him in the conversation, he looked to his parents to answer for him. His lips trembled as I gently pushed my hands around his soft belly. Diagnostic clue number two: Jason seemed more worried about this visit than he was about his belly pain.
Pediatricians are pretty good at recognizing emotionally driven symptoms in children. Sure, we include a careful history and physical exam, but when all that is reassuring, and the timing of the pain seems directly related to the anticipation of a school day, then school-related anxiety moves to the top of our diagnostic list. We don’t close the door on other possibilities. But trying to rule out every possible cause of a physical complaint before diagnosing an emotional source is for amateurs.
Many parents, on the other hand, are understandably frightened by these symptoms. They know their child is not a liar. They might take offense that I thought the problem was “all in his head,” or feel that I was being dismissive of their concerns. My recommendation to get the child back in school would often sound counterintuitive. There were a few that even left my practice out of fear and frustration that I was unable to quell. A simple, solid MedPsych toolkit that provided me with a clearer understanding of the dynamics of the illness and honed the language I used would have helped me provide clear psychoeducation and align better with many of these worried parents. It would have improved my effectiveness.
What did my MedPsych experience teach me? For one thing, “pain is pain,” whether it is caused by the inflammatory mediators that rush to a very sprained ankle, or by misleading signals across the emotional matrix of the brain, sending messages of pain out to a specific body part. In short, Jason may have had the healthiest belly in southern New England, but as I now realize, he was actually experiencing pain. He truly had no understanding that it was related to school. In a pediatric Catch-22, if he was able to recognize how anxious he actually was about school, his emotional brain wouldn’t have produced these decoy abdominal symptoms to begin with.
Simply put, Jason was not faking. His anxiety at the thought of walking into that giant brick building was overwhelming his fledgling coping mechanisms. His emotional brain, in a frantic display of strength, was using a host of neurotransmitters and specialized proteins to send out false but compelling messages of physical symptoms.
Pediatric providers need to look these young patients in the eye and tell them, not as an attempt at diplomacy but with conviction, that we believe them. We understand they are experiencing the symptoms they say they are experiencing. And we follow that with basic psychoeducation about the role of the emotional brain in producing these very real symptoms. That is where trust and healing begin. That is how we align with the child and their family. Only then can we help them better understand and connect with their feelings. Sometimes they will need to continue this work with a therapist. Sometimes not.
The next critical step is to restore function. Jason’s pediatric provider, his parents, and his teachers must be able to expect and tolerate the inevitable distress, both Jason’s and our own, as we avoid excusing absences and help the distraught child back into the classroom in a compassionate way.
Gap Years and College Decision Time
Every year at this time, with college admission decisions having arrived, we get a similar set of questions. They run something along these lines: The biggest one that seniors and their parents worry about is the first one - is it too late for a Gap Year? We can assure you that it is never too late! There are so many possibilities for experiences and activities that fit a student's goals, interests and budget. With decision day not far off, now is the time to be deciding whether or not it makes sense to delay the start of college.
To answer these and other questions from students, parents and counselors, we have scheduled our last virtual Gap Year information session:
Title: Thinking about Gap Years at College Decision Time
Date/Time: Thursday April 11, 2024 at 7:00pm ET
Description:
Is it too late to consider a Gap Year? How do I organize a Gap Year if I'm not sure what I want to do? How do I ask for a deferral if I've accepted an admissions offer? Join Katherine Stievater, Founder of Gap Year Solutions, for a virtual presentation and Q&A to answer these and other questions that always come up at college decision time. She will also cover the benefits of Gap Years, and how more students are choosing Gap Years to improve college readiness.
Speaker Bio: Katherine Stievater founded Gap Year Solutions to help students successfully transition to college. She works with students across the U.S. to structure internships, work, service, travel and other activities into a customized plan. Based in Boston, MA, Katherine is an Accredited Gap Year Consultant and has four sons, three of whom have taken Gap Years. She speaks and publishes regularly to raise awareness about the benefits of Gap Years.
Registration: click here
School Counselors and College & Career Coordinators, please feel free to share the information with your students and families, and of course we'd be delighted to have you join too!