Creating a safety plan is an important step for anyone in an abusive relationship, including teens experiencing domestic or dating violence. This plan helps prepare for dangerous situations and empowers you to protect yourself. Here’s a simple guide to help you develop a personalized safety plan.
1. Stay Safe During an Incident
- Avoid Isolated Areas: Try to stay in public spaces or areas where help is nearby.
- Create Distance: If possible, put space between yourself and the abuser—try to stay near an exit.
- Have a Code Word: Establish a word or phrase with a trusted friend or family member that signals you need help.
- Use Technology Wisely: Keep your phone charged and easily accessible. Pre-program emergency numbers, and if you're in immediate danger, call 911.
- Stay Calm: If confrontation happens, try to remain as calm as possible and avoid escalating the situation.
2. Plan for Escaping Danger
- Know a Safe Place: Identify a safe location where you can go if you feel threatened (a friend’s house, family, or public place).
- Exit Strategy: Plan and practice how to leave quickly and safely. Know which doors, windows, or exits can be used.
- Pack an Emergency Bag: Keep an emergency bag hidden with essentials like money, a phone charger, ID, medications, and important documents.
3. Stay Safe at School or Work
- Inform a Trusted Adult: Share your situation with a teacher, counselor, or school resource officer who can support and protect you.
- Change Your Routine: Alter your daily routines, including the route you take to school or work, to make it harder for the abuser to find you.
- Buddy System: Have a trusted friend or group walk with you between classes, work, or home to ensure you’re not alone.
- Plan for Pickup/Drop-offs: Arrange for someone you trust to take you to and from school or work when possible.
4. Protect Your Privacy
- Secure Your Devices: Change passwords for social media, email, and phones often. Be cautious about sharing your location or personal details online.
- Block the Abuser: Block their number and on all social media platforms to stop unwanted contact. You can also change your privacy settings to control who sees your posts.
- Get Support: Talk to a trusted adult if you feel you’re being stalked or harassed. They can help you secure a protective order if necessary.
5. Build a Support Network
- Confide in Trusted People: Share your situation with friends, family, or a counselor who can help and support you.
- Create a Contact List: Write down a list of emergency contacts, including trusted friends, family members, or community resources like a shelter or hotline.
- Get Counseling: Reach out to school counselors or community organizations to get emotional support from trained professionals.
6. Reach Out for Professional Help
- National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline: Call 1-866-331-9474 or text LOVEIS to 22522 for confidential advice.
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) for immediate assistance.
- Local Domestic Violence Shelters: Research local shelters that provide safe housing, counseling, and legal advice for teens in abusive relationships.
7. Safety After Leaving the Relationship
- Change Your Patterns: Avoid places the abuser frequents and alter your daily routines.
- Stay Connected: Keep your support system informed about your whereabouts and how they can help.
- Obtain a Restraining Order: If necessary, consult with a trusted adult or legal professional about getting a protective or restraining order.
- Trust Your Instincts: If something doesn’t feel right, trust your gut and seek safety immediately.
Remember: You are not alone, and help is available. Stay connected to people you trust, and don’t hesitate to seek support if you feel unsafe. Safety plans are essential in protecting yourself from harm and can save your life in an emergency situation. Stay safe, stay strong, and take one step at a time.
