1 on 1 Guide

Leaders, you’re entrusted here with an important task in ministering to our students in their discipleship formation. These moments you’re going to have with them may be short, but we know that they can be extremely impactful. I want to take this time to remind us of a few things before we go any further:

• Our end goal is to glorify God by enjoying Him. While we must learn the art of listening, while we must engage in building relationships and counsel, all of these things are a part of the discipleship process to lead our students towards God and His goodness. We don’t do things just to do things, we must remember our ultimate purpose.
• These 1 on 1s is a part of the discipleship process, not the ends. There’s two ways to understand this: one is that these 1 on 1s is just one of the many things we will need to do to build out a full-orbed discipleship process in our youth ministry. It will need to be supplemented with teaching, worship, membership, and fellowship; also we are still a youth ministry meaning we’re responsible for establishing a solid base for our students so that when they move on from our ministry they have the right tools to be grow at the next stage.

Here’s a list of things that you can choose to discuss in your one on one:

Current interests

• “What are you into right now? What are some things that you enjoy doing right now”?
• “What made you laugh this past week?”
• “What are some videos/people/games that you and your peers are interested in right now? Teach me about them.
  
  

Relationships

• “Who are 2 of your friends that you talk to at the moment? What do you enjoy about them? What are unique things about each of them? Can we take you and your friends out to hangout one day?”
• How often do you talk with your parents during the week? When do you talk to them the most? What’s something you wish you can talk with them about that you’re scared about/nervous about?
• Any thoughts/questions on romantic relationships?
  
  

Mental/emotional state

• “How are you feeling these days?
  
  

Spiritual Temperature

• Spiritual disciplines (quiet times, bible reading, praying, etc.) may/may not tell you the whole story so you may want to dig into this area more.
• “Do you find it easy/difficult to want to obey Jesus at this moment? Why? What do you mean?
• What’s one thing you would change about the youth group at the moment?
• What’s something you would want to talk about in DGs or the sermons or training?